From a Mom's Perspective.........

Trucks on ivory keys during piano practice, chalk murals of different worlds grouped together, fairy garden homes complete with dinosaur lairs...I love watching my kids compromise in playing with each other.  It's more important to play together than to have their own way.  Of course they also have narcissistic moments but it's truly majestic beauty watching them harmonize their creative worlds.  I guess that is something we as adults should consider while we are parenting.  

submitted by guest blogger Stacey Starley

5 Steps to Problem Solving with Your Child

1. Cool Down:

• It is important to take a minute to breath and relax before addressing the issue: 
• Help your child take some deep breaths. If he/she is overly upset encourage them to clench their hands (or other muscles) and then release them. Repeat these steps multiple times to allow the body to calm down. 
• Assess who was involved and include all individuals in the problem solving process.

2. Identify: 

• Allow your child to identify the problem and to explain what happened. 
• This helps develop autonomy and self-awareness.

3. Brainstorm:

• Have the child come up with the solutions
• Talk about the suggestions they make and help guide them in finding an appropriate solution. 

4. Go For It:

• Decided on a solution together.
• Try out the solution.
• This helps give them experience and understanding

5. Follow Up:

• Encourage your child in trying the solution.
• For example: giving an apology, demonstrating a more desirable behavior, etc.
• Guide them in their efforts so they can achieve success. 

***Remember: Your child is still learning. Be sure to set appropriate expectation. If the same issue arises again, remember to be patient. Children learn from the example that you set. Try out a different solution and stating expectations in a clear manner.***